"Also, if you’re ever upset, verbal communication is the only good way to handle the situation," says Moheban-Wachtel."Speak in person or over Skype about these heavier feelings," she recommends."Although the physical connection isn’t as prevalent, there are things couples can do to keep the spice alive in their relationship across the miles."Some of it is pretty practical: Be sure to have frequent "date nights," travel to see each other regularly, and keep your sext game on fleek.But she also includes some other concepts — things like trusting your partner and sharing fantasies with each them — that are incredibly important in any relationship, and vital to keep an LDR going strong.It's never, ever a good idea to compare your relationship with anyone else's, but if you're pining for your love from afar and are feeling a little panicky about how your situation holds up, here are a few things that should be present in every healthy sex life of couples who live in very different zip codes. "Technology today makes it easier to have the same type of dates in long-distance relationships as couples do when they live in the same city," says Moheban-Wachtel.Sure, everyone knows how to Skype, but do you schedule regular date nights with your partner that are a bit more involved than just a "hey, wassup" via video chat? “'Go to a movie' together by watching a movie at the same time and texting comments," she suggests.For the best sex of your life, you must trust your partner.
If it's a physical possibility, heed Moheban-Wachtel's advice by all means.Caliente.) "It’s easy to get caught in a rut of using the ever-accessible text messaging and email," Moheban-Wachtel says."Break away from it once in awhile and surprise each other with a handwritten message."So get out the stationery (or go to the store and buy some, because I bet you don't have any) and put pen to paper to express your feelings.And though it's superfun to lob texts back and forth all day, your romance — and sex life — will take a hit if that's all you do. "Texting is so much easier and faster that many long-distance couples fall into the trap of sticking exclusively to this type of communication."Don't do it, she warns: "Break out of the cycle and reconnect every night before bed by having a phone conversation.
You’ll feel more like you’re a part of each other’s lives, and solidify the connection on a daily basis," which will lead to better sex when you're face to face — or screen to screen.
"Maintaining a daily connection lets you know the other person is thinking about you and vice versa," Moheban-Wachtel says. And be as open as you can with each other about your goals for the relationship.