As a professional matchmaker and dating coach, I would love to have a twenty dollar bill for each time my female client has given me this post-date feedback.
I am particularly interested in this subject, as I’ve seen so many situations where I really do see a good possibility for two people—they meet each other’s Top Five Critical Criteria—and yet one or the other dismisses this other person (this person who’s hot to trot for another date) because the illusive “chemistry” thing didn’t appear to be present right away on Date Number One.
So, we shouldn’t hang in with a guy because he’s a respectable, kind person, or because he looks good on paper, or because he’s the right “type” of guy.
It’s healthy and fully appropriate that the two of you should have a threshold of attraction for each other.
That attraction can serve to be one of the sticky elements that glues you together over time.
Among other high profile features, Julie’s been featured in Dr. Providing an intimate and personalized experience to her clients, her commitment is to make dating more fun and more fruitful in an otherwise daunting atmosphere. ____You haven’t even had your first date yet and he’s already asking you your favorite position. It’s nearly every single time you start a conversation with a prospective date. Still want to educate him on what turns a woman on?That being said, I know it’s important for people to speak their truth and that part of that truth is not just communicating your lack of interest but that you find such talk so early on offensive. Don’t let what everyone else is doing change or influence your personal boundaries or limits.If he respects them, then he gets the green light and you two can continue to get to know him. Yes, you might get some radio silence at first but eventually, someone will emerge from that rubble and will be similar to you with values more aligned to yours.
The only way you’ll see him or find him is if you shut the rest of the noise down.
Are you really expected to whip out the wrapping paper and ribbons?