) it would be interesting for the students as well as my teacher with dissimilar background to know that how Iranians start dating, falling in love, and getting married. The way people start dating in Iran is highly dependent on the family they were born.
Generally, we have two extreme categories for Iranian families.
‘Khastegari’ is a custom in which families of both girl and boy come to meet each other for the first time with or without knowing each other before and this time could be the first time the the boy and the girl meet each other.
In this meeting, families as well as the boy and the girl talk to each for about 4-5 hours to get to know each other.
In these families, the way that boys and girls start dating or have relationships before the marriage is exactly similar to the boys and girls belonged to the modern families with one big difference and this difference is that usually one or both parents are not aware of these relationships.
These families allow their children to have relationships before they want to get married.
Such families are really difficult to interact with as they are in a transient state and even do not know how they should treat.
The boys and girls in such families are the biggest victims in many situations especially for having serious relationships, dating, falling in love, and getting married.
The fist category are ‘religions’ families who believed that their sons or daughters should not have any relationships before marriage.
Sometimes this category also is refereed to as ‘traditional’ family.
In this period the couple either falls in love with each other and decides to get married or understands they cannot get along with each other and break up.