Dishonesty in online dating

She’s a recent adopter of OKCupid, and is what I would consider a power user, actively pursuing suitors, sending messages and going on countless dates, that swing wildly between enthralling and depressing. Think about the tiny ping of disappointment that hits when you meet someone you’ve only conversed with online, and realize that they are shorter than they said in their profile, or when it’s clear that the picture they used is from high school.

“You know,” she told me one day over Gchat, “I Photoshop my profile picture.” She seemed unfazed by this admission, and took my shock and awe in stride. I’m not saying that looks are all that matter — clearly, they’re not, and any lingering disappointment about someone’s physical appearance can clear up instantly upon discovering shared interests.

If you find a keeper, you don't have to hide how you met when you tell other people.


Maybe for some people, it’s best to look at this endeavor as one big game, each man you bag another trophy to add to your wall at home, another story to tell friends over beers and sandy strawberries at the beach.

All you have to do is take the chance and look beyond what touchups Photoshop may have done.


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>