While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating.
Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.
If a couple is never alone together, they never have that one-on-one opportunity to relate and get to know one another in emotional and spiritual intimacy.
In addition, some courtship situations have led to borderline “arranged marriages” by the parents and have resulted in resentment in one or both of the young people.
It is important to remember that neither dating nor courtship is mandated in Scripture.
In the end, the Christian character and spiritual maturity of the couple is far more important than the exact nature of how and when they spend time together.
I was attending a close friend’s wedding at the Harvard Club of New York, an elegant “Harvard on Harvard” marriage.Many have delayed receiving their relatively high incomes for several years to pursue graduate degrees.Similarly, the married respondents in my well-educated sample () indicated that they spent an average of 3.6 years dating their husbands before committing to marriage.Are we supposed to be actively looking for a spouse?
Because it felt important and timely, I deviated last week from my central topic to write a short piece on deceptive marketing practices affecting untold numbers of returning Veterans with G. In addition to being a highly accomplished group, well-educated people are thoughtful planners and strategists.This is much longer than the 2 year relationship “trial period” suggested by some theorists.