OK, it doesn’t work for everything (even in France, telling your girlfriend she looks fat in that dress is a big no no), but overall, French people are much more open and upfront than Americans.Keep that in mind when you’re in a relationship with a French person, whether it is about what they say or about what you say (or rather what you don’t dare to say).In the US, I’ve had some first dates going great and everything went south afterwards because the girl felt I was calling too much, pretty much harassing her. I remember a few years ago, the last time I had a French (female) roommate. One day, she was all worried and stressed and pissed because he hadn’t called/emailed/messaged in about 8 hours!In France, if a guy calls a girl a lot, it means he cares. For her there was one possible explanation: he didn’t care about her.Sometimes, people, especially when they’re drunk, will kiss for whatever reason.And more important, people that are dating will kiss at the first date and regularly after that, even if they don’t think/feel that they are in a relationship, even if they see other people. Well, kissing while completely wasted is somewhat OK, but will sometimes become very embarrassing the following day, depending on who kissed who.Actually, the very concept of dating is not very clearly defined in France. It mostly consists in saying “Would you like to [insert something about dining, going to a movie or similar activities here] together?” You usually ask this to the girl after you’ve known her a little, having met her at work, school, through common friends, etc.
In France, there is no such thing as wondering after how many dates it’s OK to have sex, no such thing as “no sex on the first date, that means you’re easy” and so on…Yep, this is how French women are, and as a consequence, this is how French men (that have only dated French women) will behave too.One thing that always disturbed me in the US is how it’s sometimes easy to kiss or to get kissed (I’m talking mouth kissing, or even French kissing here).I say , because it’s really rare that the woman asks the man out in France. Please note that in France, you rarely meet your future date in a bar or a club… A big difference between both countries is the bar scene.
In France, it’s really rare that you talk to strangers in a bar, unless it’s a very lively bar, it’s late at night and everybody is very drunk and happy.
However, in a dating situation, kissing on the lips, and especially French kissing, means one and only thing: you want to be in a relationship with the person.