Most men want sex and most women want a commitment.That’s not to say men don’t want commitment, they do, it’s just not the driving force behind their behavior, getting a lot of sex is.You can blame it on biology and a man’s innate need to spread his seed, or on today’s culture which deems men who sleep with lots of women studs (and women who sleep with lots of men sluts), but it’s just the way it is.As such, women have control when it comes to sex and can decide whether to give in or not, while men have the control when it comes to commitment.I’ve dated guys like that, the ones who were ready to marry me on the first date, and I wasn’t flattered…I was freaked out.The truth is, deciding when to sleep with a guy is important and will have an impact on your relationship. No girl has ever lost interest in a guy because he slept with her on the first date while guys lose interest in girls all the time for giving it up too soon.Many years ago, a guy friend said something that completely changed the way I viewed sex and relationships.
I make it a policy not to give my friends relationship advice unless they explicitly ask for it (and a lot of the time they won’t because they know I’ll hit them with the truth and they would rather stay in denial-ville). What do you know about him that you couldn’t find out from his online dating profile or Facebook page? Well he would show me pictures of his nieces and nephews and talk about them! Anyone on Facebook could see the pictures and I’m sure he talks about them to his friends and co-workers. When it comes to sleeping with a guy, the quantity of dates is an arbitrary measure of the state of your relationship.When sex comes before a real emotional connection has been established, it’s hard to rewind the clock.