Initially, this was my way of guarding my heart and focusing my attention on seeking God above all else.It can be really easy to be motivated to go to church or pray because of a boy.I am not an expert but I can always promise that I am going to be real with you about what I feel I have learned over the past couple years. Before we even make it to the restaurant Jordan says to me, “I wanted to ask you on a date because I could see you as my wife.” To be honest, I didn’t freak out or anything.In fact, I respected his courage and appreciated him telling me his intentions but I was a senior in college nearing graduation and had no intentions of marrying this rando.I prayed and attended church with my girlfriends because I knew these ladies would be there at the end of the day.As Jordan and I grew more intimate in our relationship and shared our intentions of marrying each other one day, things did change It’s important for each of us to always seek God’s will for our lives. Until I am engaged, I won’t make my plans the same as Jordan’s.Being guarded and being independent are two different things. But keep a part of you that is completely yours and in due time that independence will foster maturity in you individually and your relationship. I don’t label guys as “christian” or “Non-Christian.” Rarely will you hear me say, “Is he a Christian? Then ask yourself, is the man I am dating going to help me get there?” because labeling someone’s religious affiliation is not what gives me the okay to date someone. Following Christ is one of the most important decisions of your life and it’s so important to choose a spouse who will challenge you and support you in that relationship.
I won’t sit here and tell you that’s impossible (because God can do anything) but I want you to think about what God wants for you in a relationship right now.
I wanted to try and break down what I believe to be both practical and applicable.
Now, I want you all to know that I am speaking very authentically here. On my first date with Jordan (aka some rando guy I had never met before), he picks me up.
I didn’t plan my life around him but around what I knew God had for me at that moment in my life.
Codependency is real and there are so many ways we can protect ourselves from this.But that also may mean that you aren’t ready to be in a relationship.